All most people hear about is
how women are very complex
sexual creatures and how it
takes more to please a woman
than it does a man. Perhaps it’s
not so much that as that men
aren’t as picky and don’t
complain about sex as much as
women do. As long as they’re
getting it, then everything is
okay. However, men are a lot
more complex than given credit
for as they have sexual needs,
desires, fantasies, likes, and
dislikes too.
Rather than harp on what men
could do better, here is an article
that shows what some women
are doing wrong in bed. Now,
rather than just complaining
about it, we’ve also provided
some suggestions on how to fix
them.
Problem # 1: During foreplay
and sexual intercourse, women
tend not to touch a man enough.
Sure, she may have her hands on
him, but not everywhere he
would like them to be.
Solution: Ideally, you want her to
touch your entire body with her
hands during the course of
foreplay and you would like for
her hands to roam during
intercourse as well. You may
want to suggest a full body
massage. If you really want to get
creative and sensual at the same
time, get some scented oils. Make
sure that you’re on the giving as
well as the receiving end.You
don’t want to appear to be
selfish and you always want to
make sure she knows that you
feel that you both should be
pleased.
During sex, if her hands aren’t
moving enough, communicate
with her and be specific. Ask her
to rub on your chest, for
instance. Make sure she also
knows that nipples are a sensual
area for men as well as women.
Some women don’t realize this
and men’s nipples tend to get
neglected.
Problem # 2: Women tend not to
kiss enough. Kissing on the lips is
not the problem, but women
sometimes neglect the rest of the
body.
Solution: If you let her know that
you like to be kissed all over,
she’ll probably have no issues
with doing it. The problem is that
women are programmed to
think that men only want
blowjobs and sex. While these
things are amazing and one or
both are the ultimate goal, there
are other things men like. So, the
big solution is communication.
Tell her what you’re looking for
and be specific. Don’t forget to
mention that tongues are
wonderful!
Problem # 3: I’m not sure how
it’s possible, but women tend to
ignore men’s balls. They’re right
there, hanging down for all to
see when a man is naked. How
they get ignored is a mystery, but
some women seem to forget all
about them.
Solution: As a guy, you know
that any sort of tender touch,
whether it’s with the hands or
the mouth, feel incredible on
your balls. You can gently take
her hand and guide it to your
balls so she gets the hint. Also,
you may want to tell her that if
she’s giving a blowjob that it’s a
real turn on if her mouth and
tongue wander on over to your
balls once in a while.
Problem # 4: Men aren’t totally
selfish and insensitive. Part of a
turn on for most men is pleasing
the woman too. In order to do
this, men need to know what
their woman likes and dislikes.
Women don’t usually volunteer
this information and it becomes
a guessing game.
Solution: The solution is very
simple. Have a conversation with
your partner about what she
likes versus what she doesn’t
like. This also gives you an
opportunity to volunteer what
you like and don’t like. Also,
encourage her to communicate
during sex or foreplay as to
where she wants to be touched,
kissed, etc.
Problem # 5: A lot of men say
that women are selfish. They
want to be pleased, but don’t
care to do much to please a man.
Solution: Rather than becoming
resentful, you should realize and
try to understand that a lot of
women bide into the idea that
men don’t’ really care for foreplay
and the only thing that they want
is sex. The first thing you can do
is tell you partner what types of
things you like during foreplay.
Get her stimulation up to a
certain point and stop. Ask her to
take a turn on you until you get
to a certain stimulation point.
Then you’ll take another turn.
This is exhilarating for both
people involved. Try it if you
haven’t already. I think you’ll both
be pleased with the results.
Problem # 6: A lot of women
leave it up to the man to be
responsible for safe sex. They
leave it up to the man to have a
stock of condoms. What ever
happened to women’s lib and
taking control of the situation
themselves?
Solution: It’s important to
remember that no one likes it
when someone finds fault with
them. So, this issue shouldn’t be
posed as if she’s done anything
wrong. Preferably, a good time to
bring up the issue of condoms
would be before sex ever occurs.
If you have an opportunity like
this and you’re talking about the
possibility of sex, you may want
to casually mention that it really
impresses you when a woman
takes the initiative to have
condoms on hand. Since she
wants to impress you, she will
most likely purchase some to
keep on hand.
If you’re already sexually active
with a woman, you can try the
same approach. If she asks if it
bothers you that you’re always
the one responsible, you can say
that it just impresses you when
a woman takes the responsibility.
She will also most likely take the
hint without getting her feelings
hurt.
Problem # 7: A lot of men
complain about the “dead fish
syndrome”. That is pretty
descriptive and we all know that
means that during sex, the
woman doesn’t move at all.
Solution: Tell her that you love to
see her turned on and that it
turns you on more. Ask her if she
could get into it during sex a little
more so that your bodies can
move together. You can also
explain that if she moves more
during sex, it will increase the
sensation for her as well.
Problem # 8: Some women don’t
appear to be very adventurous
and only want to have sex in the
missionary position.
Solution: When you’re not in the
heat of passion, ask them what
sexual positions they’ve tried and
which ones they like. Also, at this
time, you can tell them which
positions you like. Also, volunteer
to try new and exciting positions
that neither of you have tried.
Problem # 9: Women aren’t
aggressive enough during sex or
foreplay.
Solution: Did you know that a lot
of women have never even tried
being aggressive ? It may have
never even crossed their minds.
You could start by asking them if
they’ve ever been aggressive
during sex and tell them that
once in a while it’s a turn on for
you.
If they feel uncomfortable or
unsure, reassure them that
though it may feel funny at first it
might be exhilarating for them.
You can start them out slow and
tell them that you’d like to see
them grab you and force you
down on the bed. If that works
out, you can move on from there
later on.
Problem # 10: Some women
don’t make noise during sex.
What does that mean? It might
make you feel a little self
conscious.
Solution: Tell her that if she
makes a little noise during sex, it
heightens things for you and it
also lets you know that you’re
pleasing her. Be prepared that
she may ask the same from you.
Make sure that you’re prepared
to deliver.
Problem # 11: Some women
aren’t open to experimentation
and aren’t creative enough in the
bedroom. They seem to be more
than creative enough in other
areas of their life, but in the
bedroom they have little or no
imagination.
Solution: Tell her that you’d be
interested in trying new things.
Don’t expect her to come up with
ideas right away as she might
have some sort of mental block
due to some sexual hang-ups
that are beyond her control. If
you can come up with some
ideas that she’s willing to try, she
may open up later and have
some suggestions. Make it clear
to her that you’re willing to hear
and try things that she may
suggest.
Don’t be too freaky at first.
Suggest things like having sex
somewhere other than the
bedroom. Try bringing food into
your sexual experiences. If she’s
receptive to these things, you can
move up to bigger things later.
Problem # 12: A lot of women
don’t take the initiative to
approach you when they want
sex.
Solution: This one can be a little
tricky. First of all, before you
approach her with this, make
sure that you’re not approaching
her or nagging her all the time
for sex. If you are, she may not
have had an opportunity to
initiate sex.
After you’ve established that
you’re not too demanding, ask
her if there are times that she
has wanted sex when you
haven’t suggested it. If the
answer is yes, then tell her that
you would love for her to come
on to you. Tell her not to feel
strange and that it would really
turn her on.
It’s important not to push this
issue to much as it would be very
easy for her to take this as she’s
doing something wrong or even
that she doesn’t want sex as
much as you’d like her to want it.
Problem # 13: There’s not
enough dirty talk in the
bedroom.
Solution: This is another one that
can be touchy. Some women feel
very self conscious about this as
they were taught that it’s not
lady-like to say such things. It
may sound strange to you, but
it’s a very real situation to them.
You can ask them if it’s okay if
you talk to them that way in bed,
but don’t get too raunchy at first.
If they’re receptive to that, then
try it and see if they like it then
you can tell them that you enjoy
that too. Be prepared that they
may not know what to say. It’s
another mental block in the
bedroom that some women
have. Don’t feel strange about
giving her some suggestions.
Problem # 14: She’s not
spontaneous enough for you.
Some women are too quick to
get into a sexual routine.
Solution: Try being the one to
initiate sex spontaneously at an
odd time. Don’t be afraid to turn
the romance on a little bit to
surprise and entice her. After
doing that a couple of times and
letting her know how much fun
you had, tell her that you’d like to
continue to be spontaneous like
that. Give her some ideas such as
having sex in different places or
in the middle of the afternoon.
Tell her that “quickies” are cool
sometimes too. Make sure she
realizes that you’re not looking
for a quickie all the time, but that
once in a while it can be exciting.
Problem # 15: She wants to
cuddle too much after sex;
sometimes all night.
Solution: Sorry, pal. There is no
solution for this one. Anything
that you try to do to get out of it
is going to make you look like a
total creep. So, just deal with it
and realize that it’s something
that makes her feel secure and
special. Basically, suck it up, be a
man and be her “cuddle bunny”
for the entire night.
The biggest thing to remember
in a more pleasurable sexual
experience for yourself is that
you must communicate with
your partner. It’s equally
important to make her feel
secure. Just as you want to be
thought of as a fantastic lover, so
does she. For that reason it’s very
important not to offend her or
hurt her feelings by telling her
that she’s doing something
wrong.
Instead, it’s best to make gentle
suggestions. Also, listen to what
they have to say. Listen and be
understanding about any sexual
hang-ups that they may have due
to past experiences. Know that
this doesn’t necessarily mean
that certain activities or
experiments are off limits.
It just means that you should be
understanding and patient and
possibly help her to tear down
some of the barriers she may
have that are in her way. Good
luck and most importantly, have
fun!
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